Thursday, January 23, 2014


A week before Thanksgiving, I was told by HR that my job was coming to an end in exactly one week. So of course from that day until the present, I have hit the pavement running applying for open positions.

I had an interview on Monday for a job I really wasn't qualified for as far as experience goes. How do I know? The hiring manager mentioned it during the interview. When she asked a question about my experience in a certain area (the main portion of the job), I replied I haven't worked in that field before but was willingly and capable of learning. Then she mentioned she noticed on my resume I didn't have the experience but my cover letter caught her eye because I sold myself well and she thought I deserved an interview just based off it. She also said I was the least qualified of the applicants she chose for an interview but wanted to interview me because she was impressed by my cover letter. This isn't the first time an interviewer has told me similar about my cover letter. She went on to say that she was willing to hire someone who didn't have the experience.

I mentioned on twitter how important a cover letter is and was shocked to learn that a number of people don't have one. I was always taught to send a cover letter with your resume because it gives you a chance to cover everything you can't express on your resume and it can create a critical first impression. Your cover letter may make the difference between obtaining a job interview and having your resume ignored.

A few people asked me to post my cover letter on this here blog for reference so they would have an example when they decide to write their own. Hopefully y'all won't use my cover letter as your own. lol I'm not saying you should never borrow from someone else's cover letter; I'm saying you shouldn't copy it verbatim. There's nothing wrong with drawing your inspiration from someone else's well-written cover letter (I did for mine). Just be sure you use it only as a guide for writing a personalized cover letter that shows a little of your style and addresses the specific job and employer. You have to play around with the wording. Also, I use this cover letter for every job I apply for. Sometimes I add to it. For example, the job I applied to recently mentioned having HTML experience & being proficient in Microsoft Office so I added " I am also proficient in Microsoft Office and have experience and knowledge with website design technologies and HTML editing.

Below is my cover letter:


I am writing to express my interest in a position with your company and I have enclosed my resume for your consideration. Thank you for taking the time to review my credentials. 

While I am a proactive, “take-charge” professional, I work effectively in a fast-paced environment and consistently prioritize tasks and meet deadlines.  I am capable of handling a wide range of functions while consistently producing top-quality work.  Possessing excellent interpersonal and public relation skills, displaying initiative, giving attention to detail is what I specialize in. I am skilled at meeting office deadlines, implementing new, innovative and efficient procedures for all other support staff placed in my charge while completing my own assignments. I have experience with supervising a staff, recruiting and hiring, providing training opportunities, assigning projects, and evaluating the performance of incumbents. I have the ability to plan, organize and direct the work of others along with the ability to develop, evaluate and analyze programs, policies and procedures and implement needed changes. I have participated in the establishment of overall administrative and operating standards to include setting goals and objectives and directing workflow procedures. I am also proficient in Microsoft Office and have experience and knowledge with website design technologies and HTML editing. I have knowledge along with experience in research and analysis techniques and methods.  

While being highly experienced at multi-tasking and mastering the ability to work with deadlines, I can diffuse complex and challenging situations with the staff and the public.  I am a highly responsible and dependable employee who is also a self-starter.  I enjoy interacting with other staff members and being a team player.  I have above average written and verbal skills that allow each assignment to be completed in the most effective and efficient manner.  With strong computer, customer service, and organizational skills, my goal is to transition my creativity and experience into a high-profile position where I can continue to provide the highest quality of service. 

I am a “doer” who is highly motivated in doing whatever it takes to deliver.  I am driven by challenge and undaunted by obstacles.  I am confident in my ability to meet and exceed your expectations for your company and hope you will invite me to meet with you for a personal interview.  I look forward to it.

Thank you,

*so the above job I mentioned where I wasn't qualified for but got an interview based on my cover letter, I received a call today from their HR department asking for my birth date because she needed it to run a background check & she would be calling me back in a few days when they get the results. Sounds like I may have a job soon if running a background check on me means what I think it means*

Thursday, January 2, 2014

2013 Books in Review

I love a good book. For the past 2 years, I have made a goal at the beginning of the new year to read a certain amount of books. For 2013, I sat that goal at 35. I read 45 books. I decided to seek out a wider range of authors from different backgrounds to reach my goal. I don't usually go for Christian Lit but the few books I read were really good. I also decided to divulge in "hood lit" for the first time since my college days. 

Below are the list of books I read in 2013:

  1. Yellow Crocus: A Novel - Laila Ibrahim
  2. It's All Kicks & Giggles: 'til Somebody Gets Shot 
  3. Sinful Intentions - Crystal Rhodes
  4. A Deep Dark Secret - Kimberla Lawson Roby
  5. Remembering Whitney: My Story of Love, Loss, and the Night the Music Stopped - Cissy Houston
  6. It's Nothing Personal - Kate O'Reilly
  7. Decadence - Eric Jerome Dickey
  8. The Secret She Kept - ReShonda Tate Billingsley
  9. These Same Long Bones - Gwendolyn M Parker
  10. Purple Hibiscus - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
  11. The Prada Plan - Ashley Antoinette Snell
  12. The Prada Plan 2 - Ashley Antoinette Snell
  13. The Prada Plan 3: Green Eyed Monster - Ashley Antoinette Snell
  14. Relative Malice - Marla Madison
  15. An Accidental Affair - Eric Jerome Dickey
  16. The Gravedigger's Ball - Solomon Jones
  17. The Last Confession - Solomon Jones
  18. The Ex-Wife - Candice Dow
  19. The Perfect Marriage - Kimberla Lawson Roby
  20. Gone Girl - Gillian Flynn
  21. In Search of Satisfaction - J California Cooper
  22. Mama Ruby - Mary Monroe
  23. Obsessed - Devon Scott
  24. Shattered - Kia DuPree
  25. Forever Soul Ties - Vanessa Davis Griggs
  26. Deliver Me From Evil - Mary Monroe
  27. The Upper Room - Mary Monroe
  28. The Eternal Engagement - Mary B Morrison
  29. Never Again Once Moore - Mary B Morrison
  30. Where Serpents Lie - T Jefferson Parker
  31. Black Mountain Affair - Drew Lindsay
  32. The Autobiography of an Ex-Colored Man - James Weldon Johnson
  33. When Memories Fade (Victory Gospel Series #2) - Tyora Moody
  34. Remember Me - Cheryl Robinson
  35. When Rain Falls (Victory Gospel Series, #1) - Tyora Moody
  36. Flaw Less - Shana Burton
  37. Sweet Georgia Brown - Cheryl Robinson
  38. Sycamore Row - John Grisham
  39. Flaws And All - Shana Burton
  40. Flawfully Wedded Wives - Shana Burton
  41. The Racketeer - John Grisham
  42. The Amen Sisters - Angela Benson
  43. Freeman - Leonard Pitts Jr
  44. The Litigators - John Grisham
  45. Fish and Grits - Tina Smith-Brown
My goal for 2014 is to read 50 books. 

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Semi-Wordless Wednesday

Haven't done a natural hair update in a while.
I got it straightened last week & for the first 3 days, it rained. So I was doing everything possible not to get it wet.

Monday, November 25, 2013

25 Randoms

*I saw someone mentioned on twitter to tweet the first 3 things that pop in your mind. I decided to take it to the blog and post the first 25 random things that popped in my mind or I'm thinking about*

A number of my family members skipped my cousin's funeral (they only went to the wake) because it was just too much for them. Just 3 months before we were at his dad's funeral in the same funeral home for the same cause of death. I understand.

I have reached my goal of reading 35 books. And I'm still reading.

Oh no he didn't!

I love a good book. Any recommendations?

I react to things. God is not through with me yet.

Hate is a strong word. But I hate you. See God is not through with me.

I have never cooked a Thanksgiving meal. Will this ever happen?

I'm not a user. Never will be one either.

If only you knew what I knew....

I really wish my coworker would put his phone on vibrate.

Did Fall say "forget y'all" and leave us until next year?

I need an extra $800. Who got me?

You can't constantly do people wrong or try to get over and think karma is not waiting on you.

After having the same telephone number since 2002, I'm thinking about changing it.

I really do take a lot of random pictures.

You ever had someone break your heart and expect you to act like it never happened & made you believe that he was the one. Has this every happened to you is what I was asked. Girl I got the T-shirt.

An interesting fact...It is physically impossible for pigs to look up into the sky.

A shrimp's heart is in it's head. Another interesting fact.

Why do I know all of this useless information?

I rarely pay full price for anything. If I do, I'm not happy about it.

I have satisfied my urge of cutting my hair off and perming it to go back to my short hairstyles by getting it straighten.

#fapandnap We had a good time talking about this on twitter. LOL

This extra 10 pounds I'm carrying will not leave. What gives?

Twitter is so entertaining.

I don't like this getting older thing but it's nothing I can do about it.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013


I've never known someone who tried to commit suicide and was successful. I say successful because my then 20 yr old cousin J tried to commit suicide 3 years ago by shooting himself in the head. By the grace of God, he survived. God told him not today! He had other plans for him. His attempt was my first time dealing with someone who I know and love with trying to kill themselves. I remember the pain of sitting in the ER with a large group of family and not knowing if he would survive or not. There were so many questions we were asking each other that only he could answer. He survived. He was able to answer our questions. 

I've never known someone who tried to commit suicide and was successful.

Well that changed on September 16, 2013. Then again just 2 months later on November 18, 2013. My 60 year old cousin (my grandma's #1 nephew & J's uncle) shot himself in the chest only 3 days after returning from a cruise with his girlfriend and a group of their friends. It hit my family like a ton of bricks. So many unanswered questions we will probably never know the answers to. Then yesterday was like September 16 all over again with the frantic phone calls, the tears, the yelling and screaming, the questions, etc. His 35 year old son shot himself and died less than a hour later.

It's like a dream. A scary dream. A dream I can't seem to wake up from. My emotions are all over the place. From sadness to angry to remorse to confusion. How could this happen again?!

Are you thinking about suicide? Thinking about if you killed yourself, nobody would care? Thinking about you have no one to talk or turn to?

Think again!

The pain & suffering may be over for the person who committed suicide but it is transferred to that person's family and friends forever. It is a constant grief. I'm seeing how September has affected some family members & friends. I'm seeing how yesterday's suicide is affecting family members & friends.

Suicide is just a long term solution to a short term problem. If you kill yourself, you will change somebodies world & not for the good. Do you want to be responsible for that? Your suicide is going to effect most deeply those who care about you. The pain you are in is awful and you may think you can't see it through but why pass it on to your family & friends, when you could try your hardest to work through it? Everyone around you will think often "was there something I could have done?" The people who love you will be dying with guilt.

Your suicide could break some people for the rest of their lives. They will think could they have saved you. They will be angry. Oh yes they will. Why didn't you tell anyone you were hurting. Didn't you know so many loved you? They will be angry with you because they know you could have gotten through it. They will be angry with themselves because they know they could have done something to prevent this if they knew. They will be angry because they will constantly think about the last time they talked to you and wonder why didn't they pick up on a sign.

They will remember you. They will always remember you. From your coworkers to your close friends to your classmates to people who only knew you in passing to your family. They will remember you. And all of them will always wonder, why?

There are other ways out. I'm sure the struggle is so very hard but it's not worth giving up on life. Life is everything. It's beautiful and it's sad. That's life. Please don't give up. I understand that the pain is overwhelming but don't give up. Keep fighting. Give people the chance to help you. It may be hard but you will get there and you will appreciate it so much more. I know because my cousin who survived appreciates life so much more and is now living life to the fullest.
Before you give up on life, remember you might be taking others with you because the ones you left behind dies too.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Tuesday, August 13, 2013


One of my favorite blogs is Reflections of a Grady Doctor. Her post today is something that's been on my mind. *I'll wait while you go read it*

A relative (M) asked me could O spend a night with another relative (S) since she has 2 boys around O's age. I kind of paused when she asked. So I asked if they would be staying at her house (M) or S's house. She said at S's house. She just thought since O would be in Newport (my hometown), he would want to hang with some kids his age instead of hanging with the cousins who are a little bit younger than him.

S is not that great of a parent to me. Yeah I said. I've seen how she reacts around her kids. She cusses at them. Calls them the n-word. Calls them names. Smokes weed in front of them (I've witnessed her blowing weed in one child's face). These kids have seen and been around things they shouldn't have at such a young age (like seeing someone being stabbed in their living room). And I'm sorry (but not sorry), I don't want O around that. I have no problem with the kids coming to my house or even O playing with them which he does every time we are in my hometown. But I draw the line at him staying overnight at her house. She got wind of me saying I didn't want him staying overnight and she called me bougie and stuck-up. I just laughed at her. I don't want her to feel like I'm better than her but I just don't want my child exposed to things she doesn't mind exposing her children to. Plus, I don't have time to argue with anyone about a decision regarding my child. In the end, my relative M let all 3 boys stay at her house. 

This line in Grady's Doctor post is how I feel:
"Like, I don't know where protection ends and bourgeoisie superiority begins. Where exposure and acceptance end and denial and discrimination begin. I don't".

Would you allow your young child to stay with someone if you think they have questionable parenting skills?

*I wish I could find that post where Ladylee talked about how you look at yourself (or something like that) starts with your childhood*

Wednesday, August 7, 2013


Exactly one week ago today, O fell and broke his elbow. He loves his cast. He was so excited about getting a cast that he didn't realize he wouldn't be able to scratch his arm when it itches. Now he knows that struggle.